Tuesday, March 30

Make her happy!

Scripture: Deuteronomy 23-24, Psalm 38, Romans 2

Deuteronomy 24:5 If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.


The Mosaic Law exempted a newly married man from military service (or any other public duty) for one year.  His focus that first year of marriage was to be home as much as possible (he still had to work and provide) and “bring happiness to the wife he has married.”  

This shows the high value God places on marriage and marital happiness.  He set aside that first year of marriage to build a strong and joyous foundation.

Starting a family was assumed to be another purpose of the law.  They didn’t want the new husband to go off to war and die before he could conceive an heir.  


The phrase that jumped out at me was “bring happiness” to his wife.  If this is God’s purpose for their first year together, I think it’s fair to extend it to the whole marriage.  One of my responsibilities as a husband is to bring joy or happiness to my wife.

We like to say, “Happy wife, happy life.”  There is a lot of truth to that!  Make her happy!

This weekend, I saw a headline on a magazine article.  A famous star was saying, “I just want to be happy.”  Isn’t that what everyone wants?  We’re all longing for joy (among other things).  When we make our own happiness our highest pursuit, we usually end up miserable.  When we forget about ourselves and make others happy, we usually end up happy.  Jesus said, “If you lose your life you find it.”  I think that’s the idea here.  A husband finds his happiness by making his wife happy.

My job today is to make my wife happy.  Bring her joy.  What can I do that will make that happen?

Prayer: Lord, thanks for the clear and practical assignment.  Help me today to think of Laina ahead of myself, to consider what will make her happy, and to do that!